White
Workshops, performances, social gatherings, and more. Clothed and non-sexual. Beginners welcome.
See White tier events →Dark Tantra Temple
Where presence meets intensity
18+ · Adults only.
Dark Tantra Temple is a consent-forward, trauma-informed community where presence meets intensity. We run workshops, social gatherings, and guided experiences, led by trained facilitators and held by Temple Monitors who keep the room safe.
Consent comes first. So does emotional safety, and respect for every body. Beginners are welcome here, and so are people who've practiced for years. What we share is taking care as seriously as we take connection.
Learn more about who we are →How we hold the room
Every gathering rests on the same foundation. These aren't slogans — they're how we run every event.
Consent-first
Nothing happens without an enthusiastic yes. Boundaries are asked for, respected, and easy to change at any moment.
Trauma-informed
We move at the pace of the nervous system. You never have to explain yourself to slow down, pause, or step out.
Three distinct containers. Enter at your own pace.
Each tier has its own access requirements — White is open to all; Pink and Red require membership and the consent course. Each is a different level of intimacy and intensity.
Pink
Touch, breath, and sensation. A step deeper than White, at a soft to medium intensity.
Membership required.
See Pink tier events →Red
Our most intense tier. Always facilitated, with Temple Monitors present throughout. Open to approved members who've completed the consent course.
Membership required.
See Red tier events →
Next on the calendar
White
Sun, Nov 1 – 52:00 PM PT
Pleasure Playground Cabo: A Rope & Energy Playcation 5-Day Adventure
Cabo San Lucas, BCS
Pleasure Playground Cabo is a five-day Rope and Energy Playcation for adults who are ready to slow down, reconnect, and remember how good life can feel. Over five unforgettable days participants will explore rope, Qigong, fire, playful energy practices, breathtaking suspension scenes beneath the stars, rooftop dance parties, ocean adventures, and plenty of space to rest, laugh, and enjoy paradise. This isn't a training — it's a vacation with heart, a playground for adults, and an invitation to return home lighter, more connected, and more alive. Hosted by Monique Darling, Peter Petersen, Sir Pocketz, and Lawrence Lanoff. Capacity limited to 20 participants. Early Bird: $1,297 (first 5 registrations). General Admission: $1,497. Easy payment plans available. Breakfast and lunch included each day; dinner on your own. Accommodations in shared two-bedroom, two-bathroom condos with full kitchen, washer, dryer, heated saltwater pool, hot tub, and rooftop. Optional clothing-optional yacht adventure if enough interest.
The people who hold space
Our experiences are led by trained facilitators — real humans, named and known, not anonymous hosts.
In their words
What members say after being in the room with us.
“Sir Pocketz is the most patient facilitator, and very grateful that he is. I am new to rope so it took me a bit and to go slow to learn the ties. He is a phenomenal teacher, and i love that he mixes in some humor with it! Thanks so much for an incredible experience. I can’t wait for more!”
“I have had multiple sessions with Pocketz, as well as attended several events over the last couple of years. Pocketz truly is a Master at intuiting what you need, and he will deliver!! I trust that I am safe and free to exist exactly as I am when I arrive to a session/event. He will take the time to listen to your needs and ask questions to give you the exact experience you need at that time. I would recommend any/all services events hosted by the Dark Tantra Temple, Master Pocketz, or Miss Fay! I love this community, and am forever grateful to have found a place within such a welcoming and supportive space.”
Learn with us
Education is part of the practice. Read our writing, and prepare for deeper events with the course that opens the doors.
From the blog
Read the blog →Coming to an Event Alone (What Almost Everyone Is Secretly Worried About)
Posted August 12, 2026
The fear of walking into a room full of strangers keeps more people home than anything else. Here's the honest truth about coming to an event alone, and why it's a non-issue.
Read more →What Years of Holding Rooms Taught Me About Consent
Posted August 12, 2026
Consent is more than a yes at the door. The hard-won lessons from years of facilitating — what real consent looks like, why people override their own no, and what I got wrong.
Read more →Why I Started Dark Tantra Temple
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Ways to belong
The Temple is more than a calendar of events. There are many ways to step in.
Temple Roles
Approved members can apply to serve as a Temple Keeper, Temple Monitor, or Facilitator — the people who shape and safeguard the community.
Explore Temple Roles →Become a Member
Membership opens the Pink and Red tiers, the consent course, and the full community. Every application is read by a real person.
