From the Temple
Essays and field notes on consent, presence, and conscious intimacy.
Coming to an Event Alone (What Almost Everyone Is Secretly Worried About)
Posted August 12, 2026
The fear of walking into a room full of strangers keeps more people home than anything else. Here's the honest truth about coming to an event alone, and why it's a non-issue.
Read more →What Years of Holding Rooms Taught Me About Consent
Posted August 12, 2026
Consent is more than a yes at the door. The hard-won lessons from years of facilitating — what real consent looks like, why people override their own no, and what I got wrong.
Read more →Why I Started Dark Tantra Temple
Posted August 12, 2026
The honest story of how Dark Tantra Temple began — a bowl of strawberries in Las Vegas, years of searching for a space that didn't exist, and finally building it.
Read more →Why We Go Slow (When Everything Else Wants You to Speed Up)
Posted August 12, 2026
Most of the world sells intensity and speed. This work deliberately does the opposite. Here's why slow is the point, not a limitation, and what it actually unlocks.
Read more →Your Nervous System, Explained Without the Jargon
Posted August 12, 2026
Fight, flight, freeze, regulation, window of tolerance — the terms fly around this world constantly. A plain-English map of what your nervous system is actually doing.
Read more →Presence Is the Whole Practice: Why We Keep Coming Back to It
Posted August 12, 2026
Breath, somatic work, tantra, meditation — they look different but train the same thing. A plain look at what presence actually is and why it's the point of all of it.
Read more →What Is Conscious Intimacy? A Plain Definition
Posted August 12, 2026
Conscious intimacy gets used a lot and defined rarely. Here's a plain-English definition, what separates it from ordinary closeness, and how to actually practice it.
Read more →Do You Need a Partner for Any of This? (No.)
Posted August 12, 2026
The most common reason people count themselves out of tantra and somatic work is thinking they need a partner. You don't. Here's what solo practice actually is.
Read more →Tantra for Couples: What It Actually Looks Like
Posted August 12, 2026
A grounded look at tantra for couples: what the practice really involves, what it's good for, what to do if only one of you is curious, and how to start at home.
Read more →What Is Breathwork, Really? (And Does It Actually Do Anything)
Posted August 12, 2026
A grounded, no-hype explainer on breathwork: what it actually is, the different types, what the research supports, and how to try it safely for the first time.
Read more →After the Event: Why DTT Doesn't Disappear When You Leave
Posted June 15, 2026
The drop after a big somatic experience is real, and most facilitators leave you to it. Why it happens, and the integration support that catches you after a DTT event.
Read more →What Actually Happens at a DTT Event
Posted June 15, 2026
A plain, moment-by-moment walkthrough of a Dark Tantra Temple event — from the check-in station to the close — so you know exactly what you're walking into.
Read more →Why You Feel Disconnected From Your Body During Sex
Posted June 15, 2026
Feeling like you're watching yourself during sex isn't a flaw — it's your nervous system protecting you. Why disconnection happens, the common causes, and what to do about it.
Read more →What Trauma-Informed Actually Looks Like (And Why It Matters)
Posted June 15, 2026
"Trauma-informed" has become marketing language. Here's what it actually means structurally, what it looks like in a real space, and how to tell the label from the practice.
Read more →How Do You Know If a Workshop Is Safe?
Posted June 15, 2026
How to read a workshop's safety signals — before you commit, when you arrive, and during the event — plus exactly when to walk back out.
Read more →How to Find a Teacher Who Isn't a Creep
Posted June 15, 2026
The field has real bad actors. The red flags, the green lights, and a step-by-step process to vet a tantra, somatic, or embodiment teacher before you trust them.
Read more →Does Somatic Therapy Actually Work? An Honest Answer
Posted June 13, 2026
A clear-eyed look at somatic therapy: what the research supports, where the field oversells, what it's good for, and how to vet a practitioner.
Read more →What's the Difference Between Tantra and Tantric Sex?
Posted June 11, 2026
Tantra and tantric sex aren't the same thing. The clear distinction, why the two get conflated, and which one to search for depending on what you actually want.
Read more →Is Tantra Just Sex? (And What It Actually Is)
Posted June 10, 2026
No, tantra isn't just sex. Where the misconception came from, what tantra actually contains, and how to spot the real practice from the marketing version.
Read more →Where to Start with Tantra (When You Don't Know Anything)
Posted June 10, 2026
A grounded, no-hype guide to starting tantra: what it actually is, what it isn't, and the single first move to make if you're curious but lost.
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